Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Happy New Year




"We will open the book. Its pages are blank.We are going to put words on them ourselves.
The book is called Opportunity ,& its first chapter is New Year's Day."

~Edith Lovejoy Pierce

A New Year's toast to love and laughter & happily ever after

HAPPY NEW YEAR

Wishing All of you Health,Happiness & success in 2009.

Wednesday, December 24, 2008

Merry Christmas!

Sometime It seems that some songs were wrriten Keeping Me in mind. Sometimes this might not be a thing to be Happy About.

 

 But You should keep Hope and Humour alive nevertheless  :) .  
With this thought lets celebrate this occasion . 


Wishing You And Your Loved One a Merry X Mas 

Monday, December 22, 2008

The Book

In my last but one post I complied to a long standing request of some of my readers 
Reading that post one of my college time buddy got upset .Honestly speaking he had good
reason to be angry , for last two years or so He was requesting me to email him the transcript of
a poem which I wrote for him while we were in college . Yes !! Back than I used to be something 
of a poet While some of my work was sort of "Okie Dokie". But most of it was CRAP .

However this Poem was "special" for my friend because I had written it for a Valentine Day card 
which He planned to give to a girl who was [At the time of writng ] Love of his life.As expected,
He got Rejected ( poor bastard) .She tore the card apart and threw it on his face without even 
reading my poem once (Bitch !! ) .

I had Fun watching the whole drama from a [safe] distance . As far as I know me & my friend were 
only two peeople in world who read that poem. Year and Half back my freind got married.On My
very first telephonic conversation with his wife, I told her the whole incedent (Thats what freinds 
are for, right ?) .Bhabhi was ROTFL listening to the story , and requested for the poem. Now there
were two people requesting the same thing .

But Somehow I never responded to their request. I was Lazy and I was afraid to look back .
But after getting their IM yesterday I decieded to finaly do it. So here is the poem "The Book ".
Fitting title I guess ,as He used to see that girl only at our college Library . Enjoy !



The Book

All Alone All by Myself  ,I am a book on her shelf 
Waiting for the day when She will come to me .

What my contents are she would like to see

This Distance is too long , From this shelf to that table 
And My Plight is that She hates My label 

Days Passed in this Way , and Thus past years 
But my silent Prayers She doesen't seems to Hear 

My Pages turned in to Yellow , and I am covered in Dust,
But Still in My life , She is a MUST

Come oh My Angel, I am waiting for you since Ages
Jsut Come for Once and Scroll My pages

Saturday, December 20, 2008

Sometime Words are Meaningless


Now thats called  Love !! I salute You Mr.Sunny Panwar . May god bless you and Bless Aarti with Good health soon. Thanks . 

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

The 100 Post Milestone


I just noticed that post count on this blog  is hovering on 99. I didn't realized that I was so close to hitting a century . So here I go on to score the single . this blog is now 100 post Strong. 

One more thing, Last month "Knowprashant" celebrated its 4th Birthday. What started in a small cyber cafe of Bangalore has now become something like a part of my identity. Many a time in conferences people  say  "Hey !  You are "pacificleo" ? I read that post on your blog and it was good." . Needless to say that I feel good when that happen :) .

I would like to thank all  my readers .I  get to know a lot of interesting ppl through this blog . Thank you very much for your support,appreciation, feedback and emails . I wish I could publish the funny , weird and insightful email message I  receive from readers who ,for some strange reason are shy to leave them in comment . 

Today I would like to respond to one more  long overdue request of my friends .Many of them when they come to know that I do blogging ask me to send them a list of "My Fave posts and good post by other bloggers  ." Thanks to my laziness I never did that .So here goes.

My Fave Posts on "knowprashant" (not in any particular order ) 

First Love's Labour Lost  

Lost in Transition  

Buddha Meets Spider man 

Teacher and Parents  

Patterns and Observations 

Please Don't Try to Understand 

Lalita Jee's Son 

Musing at 1:44 PM 

 As some of you know that I am a contributing author On Pluggd.in too . I had a good conversation over one of my post about "why its difficult to have Companies like Facebook/google from India " . you can read it here  . Ok !! Enough of Self promotion . Here are some of the blogs I love reading and my fave among their writings.

Raganwald Braithwaite is my fave blogger,In fact his essay What I learned from Failure inspired me  to start blogging . some of his other exceptional article include  Haggling About Price [must read],  off Topic , Brief History of Dangerous Ideas .  

 I have lost count of how many time I have read How to be Creative byHugh Macleod . Its worth (Re) Reading . Mark Cuban's Blog blogmaverick  is worth subscribing to .My fave amongst his article are  Success and Motivation , Dancing With the Stars , What you are destined to be

 Amongst Indian  bloggers I like Jai Arjun's Blog Jabberwock  .If you are (like me ) a Meg Ryan fan then do read his funny article You'Ve got Mush . you can always trust Jai for best review of Bollywood flicks. Some other good blogs which I discovered are  Chit Chatni , My World My Space ,Joelonsoftware , Raw Thoughts , Smartmobs .  

 Article in American Scholar are usually nice .my personal fave is Disadvantages of Elite education . If you ever face the  discriminated by somebody from IIT -IIM  you will surely relate to this article [must read] .

 No list of my fave blogs  can complete without mentioning Inktales . Blog of My friend Sunandini Basu . I visit her blog whenever i need to laugh.She don't write, she draw sketches based on the events of her day to day life . Very very innovative. All her post are  funny like hell . Mumbai Chronicle is my fave . I had the honor of being featured in one of her drawing . you can see that post here . 

 I haven't covered the tech biz and friends blog here other wise list would have gone far too long  but I would like to mention that I start my day with reading News at Techmeme, Medianama and BoomTown .

That's it for the day Guys. I look forward to your continuous support ,feedback and patronage .

Happy Blogging !! 


Image Courtesy Heral frasco.

Tuesday, November 25, 2008

Wedding Invitation




Please Joing us on this special Occasion .

Time : 08:00PM onward (  8 PM ;) ) 

DATE : Wednesday , 10th of December 2008.

Venue: Shanti Niwas Hotel , Near Railway Station,Bikaner.

Detail of Program shown below 


Monday, November 24, 2008

Page 56 MEME

Sometime  seemingly  pointless act give you a kick and show that there are so many interesting things around if only you look  around.

Today someone posted a funny riddle of his facebook profile  . It was named "Page 56" . It was a game where user need to do some actitivty and spread the word in his friend list . some of the comments i got were truly amazing .  Idea hit chord with many users its seems . so much so that its spreading  like a meme . 

see for your self 



Rules:

* Grab the book nearest you. Right now.

* Turn to page 56.

* Find the fifth sentence.

* Post that sentence along with these instructions in a note to your wall.

* Don't dig for your favorite book, the coolest, the most intellectual. Use the CLOSEST.


* Publish the sentence ,with the name of book and abuthor .

* spread the word 

Curious about what I  was my finding ?? Read on .. 


"It is a work ethic that has seen him become India's biggest endorsement machine,with 15 brands at the last count ,each earning him a pay cheque of Rs 5 crore ."

India Today ( May 2008 ), cover story KHAN Power . Page No. 56  

My Brother's Finding .

Regular expressions can be complex and confusing

Some more listed below 

"Memories, Harry, are somewhat like pencils." 

Mobius Dick, by Andrew Crumey  (Via  Nikhil Verma )

With religion and family being so highly revered, don't' be surprised if you're constantly grilled about these subjects and receive curious(possibly disapprovingly) looks if you don't 'fit the mould'.
Lonely Planet, India (via Sundeep Maithan)


So there it was - midnight.

Julie & Julia, by Julie Powell (via Vivek


Oversize menus and large tables with room to run around between them strengthen its family appeal.

Time out Magazine, Nov 14-27 Issue. Review of Route 04 (via Indira Bisht  ) 


When the times come, they are critical

Founders at work - Jessica Livingston (via Mayank )
 

Do share your finding in comments . If you are on facebook. you can see some of the responses on my facebook page  .for more details see the google search  here . Have Fun !

Friday, November 21, 2008

ThE Matrix Spoof

I am a Matrix Fanboy . "The Matrix" is more than a movie for me . its a cult . I don't know if the story is real or not but its not a out and out fiction also . It might be highly improbable but I hate the skeptics who dismisss it label it as impossible . someday I will write a full post on Matrix and phylosophy behined it . 

But today I want to share this funny video of Matrix Spoof done by genius folks at College Humour .This video depicts a scenario of Matrix running on Windows XP . Its funny like hell . Make sure that you stay tuned till the last frame where Neo says " Uh-bun-tu" . 

Enjoy .



for a serious scintifc treatment of theory of Matrix and some good reading on  possbility of Matrix bening real .Please refer to  Simulation Argument website .



Monday, November 10, 2008

Dilemma Of Lalita Ji’s Son.




In this post I intend to talk about the Dilemma faced by Lalita ji's son . He is not alone in this dilemma .its a problem , a paradox which many [ but not all ] "MAN" of his generation are going through . Its my take on the troubles of being a man in today's world . while poets ,politicians ,literary pundits & feminist are busy fighting the cause of female equality and liberation this two bit blogger choose to stand up and voice the problem of remaining 50% of human race .

Before we start our inquiry I request you to indulge in a little experiment with me. As part 1 of this experiment Please close your Eyes for few moments, take a deep breath and think about these animals: "Lion ","Tiger", “Panther”. While you think about them try to notice what images flashes in your mind. How do you visualize them? In what setting you see them living? In past couple of week I asked this question to many of my friends. And with unfailing consistency I got answer like "King of Jungle" ,Strong ,Clean ,independent, Powerful, alert, fierce, Sexy ,Powerful , Live by his own rule etc. I am sure that your response will be somewhere close to it .

OK,Now comes the second part . Look back in to your life and think of all those instances when you actually saw a Lion, Tiger or a Panther in front of you & try matching your mental image of these creature to what you have seen . Most of the time people see them in Zoo ,Circus or wild life parks . they are weak , dirty , lazy , feeding on food given by care taker , they look at you and you make fun of them they rarely attack but sometime they roar which is scary . Its always a disappointment to see them . They never live up to the reputation bestowed upon them .




Life of a MAN in our urban metro society is not very different from these creatures . MAN live through a paradox . World has a perception of them as someone with traits like Strong ,Clean ,independent, powerful, alert, fierce, Sexy ,Powerful , Live by his own rule etc . But reality is that more often than not they are confused , weak ,dirty , lazy , feeding on food given by employer, you make fun of them they rarely attack. Its always a disappointment to see them . They never live up to the reputation bestowed upon them . All their life they live in a paradox to live up to an image which they never opted and which is nothing more than a historic baggage . Basic question here is about stereo type . simply put

" Is Stereotypes of "Macho Man" & MCP is any better or worse than a stereo type of "Abla Naari" & Bitch " .




What’s going on here ?


Something is rotten in the state of Denmark

~Marcellus:(Hamlet Act 1, scene 4, 87–91)


My friends started getting married couple of year ago. Every year during wedding season 2-3 folks from my gang walked toward the altar or walked down the aisle. situation was serious. Since none of the newly wed has time for their single friends I was afraid that I will be left alone.

Unfortunately that fear was somewhat misplaced .with an alarming rate I saw those newlyweds falling apart . Some of them got separated, some made peace with each other in a sub optimal way and very tiny few of them figure out a middle path and they are living happily. But in every single case the journey was not smooth. it was full of hiccups and rough patches. It won't be an overstatement if I say that I haven't seen a SINGLE fairy tale wedding in my generation. Why?


I know it will sound audacious but I think my conversations with these people and some of the experiences I had in my personal life has given me some insight about why it happens . why most of the nuptial bonds goes through a rough patch . When I say "rough" I don't mean Rough as in Lovey Dovey Nok-Jhok of two soul in some fabled cosmic union . I mean dirty fights, when you feel like killing other guy and kick your self for how you can be such a fool .When compromise becomes sign of weakness and holding to your ground [ No matter how stupid or trivial issue is ] becomes a fight for your identity .


I think there are two reason for this Learning Curve & Biases of Involved parties & Evolutionary Stagnation .


Learning Curve & Biases :


If you don't appreciate the boundaries of your freedom than you are heading toward the Ghetto of slavery

~German Proverb


Transitions are always hard, irrespective of the outcome, irrespective of the fact that whether the transition is chosen or forced . Transition are hard because they involve a learning curve . Learning curve to adjust your world view to new reality. Sometime climbing that learning curve require us to unlearn something . This is more true when it comes to transition in balance of power.We must admit that in our society Man -Women relationship is going through a Power shift .and we [both sexes ] are failing miserably to learn .When I say power shift I mean POWER SHIFT . Not Balance of Power . Power is being redistributed, Right. But is the new distribution Fair and Uniform? I doubt. Lord Buddha Once said that it require a lot of discipline to be truly free .because with freedom comes the power to act , power to judge and power to influence the lives of people around you .

Until recently I was of opinion that much of the friction among modern day Cosmo couples is due to the inability of MAN to adjust to the reality of Equal Woman . But I have statistically significant evidence that women too, are having a tough time to adjust to their new found freedom. I will document only some of those instances here .


Couple of month back I attended a party , a regular Corporate party with a single point agenda of " Let's Get -Drunk-on-their expense". There I happen to meet a Lady friend of mine , We know each other for 2 years now. She is a top executive in her industry & we keep bumping to each other often in such conferences. She has a charming mannerism and enviable persona. After the party all of us felt that we have taken beer in excess so we should go for a coffee . Six of us went to nearby Barista for a shot of Espresso . while waiting for our brew we somehow got in to a discussion on Divorce , wedding , lack of suitable guys & Sexual infidelity etc .Since we were all drunk so every one of us was having a theory [ one of them, who can remember his drunken words is writing this blog ] . All through the conversation that lady was very intently listening , at times amused but she was silent throughout . Then she put her cup down and said

[Lady ] : " I have some news for you people , you are clueless about the topic you are discussing here" .

Needless to say there was a silence [ its hard not to pay attention when a pretty lady is making a point ] .

[Lady ] : "I have a Question for all of you self proclaimed experts . Guess My Age"

"What ?? ". someone snapped

[Lady ] : " Yes ,Guess My Age , and you can look at me I won't mind " she said mischievously

[Guy 1] : 28

[Me] : 30-32

[Guy 2] : 27

[Guy 3] : 30-32

[Girl 1] : 26-29 <>

[Girl 2] : 27

[Lady ] : <> I am 46 . My first date is father of a College going daughter now . I have seen the change in past 20 years . Its drastic .Thanks to my job I have always been surrounded by the young guys and girls . I have seen the change in attitude of men and women around me . Even though I am sad to say so but truth is that while MEN have been very resilient to adopt , women today are not handling their freedom fairly . They are misusing it. Be it work, family or relationships we are ready to play the gender card at slightest of provocation. Many decent guys today spend a lot of time explaining them self to their partner. For men its a Guilty unless proven innocent situation.

this was followed by a long conversation where she explained her view point in detail .


Her reference to "Guilty unless proven innocent " reminded me of a documentary I saw on Discovery Channel where famous anthropologist Helen Fisher was talking to a group of Univ. student. One of the girl in the audience said “Infidelity is masculine nature . so it’s no wonder they commit adultery " .

Dr.Fisher replied " That’s a stereotype notion and I have seen enough cases that i can assert that there is no reason to believe that Man are any less or any more infidel than women " .

"But most of the guys in I know have slept with someone at one point or another " Girl Countered .

Dr. Fisher said "So does that make men more corrupt than women ?? Tell me with whom does these guys are sleeping with ? Other Women right? "

Do you see the extent of bias we have ? It took world’s leading anthropologist to make us do that simple mathematics.



I admit that historically Men has been unfair to women . Men have tortured and suppressed women for last 500 ( 600 ??) years . Does that mean We should have Next 50 or 100 years of masculine suppression.

Ladies, Those men are dead and rest of us ( or some of us ) are working hard not to be like them . Please don't punish me for the crime committed by our great-great grandfather. Try to Let go …Please.


Evolutionary Stagnation:




This point stems from the previous point only. Idea is to examine if our social structure allow such Balance of power ? While we are working in right direction but I think that a massive change in perspective is needed. Allow me to explain.

In our life we interact with few institution . Govt, market, office ,family ( or Marriage ) . Our life is structured around them . any change in them effect our life . Let’s look at the evolution of these institution from the dawn of civilization to this day .

Government : We started as a cult in hunter gatherer society , first Govt was just a head of cult . He was probably appointed because of muscle power but soon this became hereditary and we had families of monarchs ruling us. This system of centralized monarchy evolved in to fragmented feudalism which further evolved in to participatory Govt. like Democracy . Although transition was tough but general trend was clear. More and more decentralization and EQUAL distribution of power & influence to every stake holder .

When it comes to Market : we have seen evolution from pure "Share the prey " system –to- bartering –to- currency based trade –to- banking–to- central banking –to- currency conversion –to- complex derivative based financial instrument ( and now to some god forsaken Sub Prime Mortgage ) . Along the way we developed economic systems like Socialism , capitalism, Mixed economy etc . Again you can see a clear trend in the favor of decentralization , distributed control ,accountability and participation of every stakeholder .

Same goes with the Workplace : We started with system of hunter and prey , graduated to self sustaining Agro economy where everyone worked for himself and did bartering when needed . With the invent of currency we moved to shops and began to employ fellow human beings. Initially it was a Master slave sort of arrangement than we started having wages and salary . moving further we developed complex dependency of supplier, manufacturer ,seller , customer. During industrial age we glorified the “process” so much that people become a pseudo clockwork orange and we had movies like Modern Times & now we have a equal opportunity office , where we call each other by first name . again you can see emergence of complex interdependency which reinforce the notion that individual is as important as institution. people have clear expectation and understanding . This system has a self correcting mechanism which can not be hijacked by a single stake holder for his/her agenda .


But when it comes to the institution of marriage you will see that it hasn't been exposed to that kind of correction and evolution , Marriage has same notion around the world. Boy Meets Girl , they do some ritual and society approve the union. They raise the kids . share the responsibility in terms of earning the bread and fixing the meal.

When rest of the institutions around us were going through turmoil , Institute of Marriage was rock solid example of stability , something which stood the test of time, something which symbolized permanence . My dad has same perception of marriage as my grandfather and I have same perception of wedding as my father. But much as I like to believe otherwise, this is not the case .Institute of marriage is having its first phase of evolutionary turmoil. To be very frank I think it’s much needed & long overdue. Men were getting too good a deal out of it for far too long.

Its widely agreed upon that financial equality is first step to social equality . But I have seen families of previous generations that even when women stared contributing equally to income this was not reciprocated by men by sharing the load in other department . Sadly majority of Man wanted their wife to be a working women but they don't want to chip in with household chores . Surprisingly this deal was accepted to women of previous generation.






Remember Lalita Ji of Surf commercial ? She was women of previous gen.
So who is the rebel now ? perhaps its the daughter of Lailta Jee , who grew up watching her mom sweating it out in kitchen, working hard in office , staying awake with them on study table during their exams while father was fiddling with remote . Perhaps she quietly resolved that she won’t let this happen to her. This baggage leads to some sort of “always –out- to- protect –fellow-women” mindset . there is a skepticism. While I respect their resolution and I am all for equality . But there is one small error of assumption in this theory , Think about Son of Lalita Ji , why do we assume that the boy hasn’t learned anything ? Why its always implicitly assumed that He hasn’t resolved to be different when its his turn ? Just because He is a Boy ?? . I think that’s unfair.

Photo Credit : Creative Genius of Web 2.0 Hugh Macleod

Saturday, May 10, 2008

Hasta la vista, baby.


Some things are best left unsaid... I'm one of those things!......

I will be not be updating this weblog for next couple of months . some things on my personal and professional life need my undiverted attention , some issues to be sorted, some stuff to be cleared, so that I am able to think straight . I hope my readers will stay with me . I will be back when I will have something to say . Till than Take care !!

Hasta la vista, baby.



PS: you can reach me at pacificleo-AT-Gmail.com . I will be publishing Byte sized details of my day to day life on my Twitter Page . You can read them at

http://twitter.com/pacificleo

if you don't know (or understand ) Twitter . I suggest you see this video from guys at CommonCraft .